The easiest way to get men to reveal their private lives is to accuse/speculate about them of being gay. Sexuality lies very close to a person’s self. It is a very selfish & private zone of the human psyche no matter how selfless people claim to be. So once you start deciding for others the apparent nature of their being, they will quickly become defensive by revealing the true nature of their being thinking that you are the bureaucrat of the universe who decides what is and isn’t who needs to be convinced with evidence to contrary. The only defense you have against these attacks as usual is to realize that your sexual orientation is not at the mercy of another person’s opinion. You need no sanction to be straight (or gay). Be comfortable with yourselves!